Saturday, June 14, 2008

Blogging troubles

I am a horrible blogger. I know that. I couldn't really justify it or understand it until recently. I always assumed I was just too busy, and in truth, that is part of it. Working a new job in a new field doing something entirely foreign while also living in a hetic city and pursuing an MA in said field .... while, obviously it requires most of my mental and physical reserves. I realize lately, however, that there is more to it than this. Having grown up in an environment full of family secrets, I was taught that I shouldn't talk about what goes on at home. This is not something I've been conscious of before, but I realize now what a hindrance that is to blogging. I love the idea of blogging because it gives me a reason to write, an audience, and writing is my soul. I am always afraid, though, that I will write something I am forbidden to discuss, that my audience will be outraged and some horrible secrets will be spilled if I'm not careful. This leaves me with two alternatives: write about trivial things or write nothing. Obviously I have mostly chosen the latter. I think the time has come for a sea change in my thinking and my writing habits. Hopefully I am brave enough for this.

3 comments:

Heather said...

I think even if you didn't grow up in a family of secrets, there is still a little residual wary-ness when it comes to blogging about your life. I know I have felt it, and it has taken years to get more comfortable with it. And also to develop some strategies to make it feel "safe."
1) don't mention other people by name unless you know they're ok w/ it - just use a nick name or an initial or something.
2) don't blog anything too specific about work. This one's important for me b/c there are a lot of privacy issues w/ our clients. etc.
3) If you want to give yourself permission to blog w/o worrying about censoring yourself, write a "private" entry. You can always decide after its finished that it's safe to make public after all.
4) limit who you give your blog URL to, at least at first. (also, I have my LJ account, which only some of my good friends know of - though its public. And I have my Blogger account, which I tell everyone about)

Aubri said...

Thanks for the tips. Good ideas. : )

Heather said...

No problem, sweetie. I just checked, and can't find a way to make an entry "private" on blogger - since it's so focused on "blogging" where LJ is a "journal" in concept. But you can save something as a draft and no one will see it. you can also set your blog as only readable by people you have selected, or by all people that have a blogger account.